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I recently began losing weight. It's a slow process, but the biggest loss so far is in my bust. My full bust measurement has dropped by 1.5 inches in a month, and my underbust measurement has also decreased by half an inch. In other words, I've gone from 44H/44FF to 44G/44F in a month! I need new bras! It also ... means I can't go buy a bazillion bras in my current size, because I don't know how quickly I'm going to change sizes. At this rate, I'll need a 42 band size by the beginning of the new year. My hips and thighs have not followed suit.
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Thanks, DarkMoonLily! I didn't expect to see results this soon, but it's really motivating.
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It is soooo hard to put a bra on in the summer heat! Yeesh! Ladies, I know you understand my pain! I want to bathe in baby powder (it helps with the boob sweat).
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Hah, yes, I get out of the shower in the morning and before I even have time to make my way to the closet to pick out and put on a bra, I feel like I need to have another shower because I'm already covered in sweat. It's like trying to put a harness on a pair of slippery oily water balloons. Damn heat.
dagobra and forget thinking about changing bras because the one you put on doesn't work for the outfit you want to wear. Now you get to plan your outfit around the bra you put on!
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Last Saturday I went to a theme park with a combined water park. I had worn my bikini under my shirt to make changing easier. After we were done in the water park, I went to get changed and I realized...MY BRA WAS IN THE CAR IN MY OTHER BAG! I am way too pendulous and nippy to go w/o ... a bra, especially under the thin tank I was wearing. I put my shirt on and threw my towel over me to protect my modesty, and went to explain my predicament to my boyfriend. The van was so far, we decided that it was better for me to just deal w/ the wetness of my bikini than wasting an hour walking through the parking lot. It was humid and I had terrible swamp boob the rest of night. Luckily, I didn't get a rash.
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Hahaaa, swamp boob, I love this description, so accurate :D
Ugh!
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Now I don't think I am 28H anymore... OMG. I mean I was full cup of 28H but now i am def 28HH
also I just tried 28J It fits!
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Is this the same model of bra? I can have variations of up to 3 cup sizes between different brands and models...
Oh Thanks GOD!! than I may be not!
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strapless bra !!! I'd love to hear your recommandation of strapless bra! My size is 28H/28HH now -more like HH- and What would you recom ?
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I love my 65E - Ewa Michalak ยป Mleczny Strapless (87) really comfy and stays put the whole day, also gives me nice cleavage.
The freya deco strapless wasn't a good fit for me because the wires were too wide and the cups came up too high.
Did ewa michalak comes with nude colour??
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This probably should go under bra ups and downs as well as body issues.
I am so frustrated! I feel like I could spend thousands of dollars looking for the right bra fit and STILL not find it. When I recently ordered most of the bras I've put up here, I really really thought they were close to the right ... fit, and it turns out they're 4 or more cup sizes too small in some cases! Honestly, it seems like a reduction would be less expensive at this point. I cannot afford to keep doing this. I keep getting cup size recommendations far beyond what I'd thought my size could possibly be.
I feel more self-conscious about my boobs looking huge than ever before. Even when I lost a bit of weight earlier this year (it was due to oral surgery, I avoid dieting), my breast size did not shrink AT ALL. My mother complains about that being the first place she starts to lose weight when she loses any. I feel like mine keep growing, which... Perhaps I should have a mammogram, MRI, blood tests? Could it be a serious problem if mine are growing in my thirties? I don't feel a mass or anything, but I wonder if something hormonal could be causing this? I'm not pregnant and have never been. My sister got up to a C cup when she was pregnant last year -- when she complained about that causing pain, I sort of wanted to strangle her. I mean, not really, but you know.
The other thing, with my lupus... I have a bad kidney, and I may in fact have to diet in order to become eligible for a transplant. It's not something that makes me happy to think about, and I really hate the idea of dieting. I'd need to lose just about 10 pounds to get out of the "obese" category. But like... I can't figure out a way to exercise because my boobs hurt too much. I bought a 36H Berlei sports bra this year, and it is WAY too small in the cups. I bounce more in that bra that most any other that I own. I am so tired of hurting all the time. I wish I could just get a reduction down to a DDD or something and be done with it. That would solve a lot of this, and it would almost certainly take me out of the obese weight bracket so I wouldn't have to diet.
This just seems impossible! I'm beginning to doubt that bras are actually made in my size.
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I know that Imogen from inside out style blog just got a breast reduction. Depending in where you're from health insurance might cover it.
Where I live now, it would probably not be covered. But I'm considering moving to Connecticut, where it probably would be. I'll check out her blog.
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I'm sure someone has thought of this before, but how awesome would it be to have a bra library, that you pay like... $25 a year to be a member, and then you can check out bras for up to three weeks or whatever to see how well they fit and if they're worth the investment.
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I posted something like this a few weeks ago! It would seriously be my dream come true. Not sure if it would make enough money to actually work, though.
That would be so cool!
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I generally dislike going to Walmart; the place is pretty much always crowded with people who refuse to acknowledge being asked if they will please let someone through while they stand with carts blocking every aisle imaginable, they never have enough people working the registers, and simply navigating the parking lot in and out of ... the car is nothing short of dangerous and would be safer if everyone was in bumper cars or I drove a monster truck. But tonight's experience takes things to a whole new level. A man that I did not and do not ever plan to know put his hands on my ass. When I turned around and looked at him he just smiled in a weirdo perv way and looked directly at me like he expected me to just accept being touched by a strange man. I told him "Don't touch me again" and glared at him before I turned back around and continued on my way through the store. Apparently he didn't get the message because he thought it would be ok to follow me around, to the register where he mumbled something about wanting my phone number, then and all the way out to my car - which is when I used my taser on him. The sheriff's deputies hanging out by their patrol cars maybe 3 parking spaces away saw that part of what happened and as they're supposed to be keeping the public safe it was understandable that they would come over to find out what the issue was (first they asked for me to give them the taser while we spoke, for everyone's safety) so the cliff notes version went something like..- I told them "he touched me" - "did you touch her sir?" - "mumbled...maybe ok yeah..."; "he followed me around the store to the register and then out here" - "sir, did you follow her around and then out here to her vehicle?" - "mumbled so? I wanted her number" - and; "then I tasered him".
I got my taser handed back at the end of the conversation with law enforcement right about the time that the guy ended up in the back of the patrol car because by that point someone in store security came out and told the deputies that he'd been exposing himself in the store while walking around and then while following me. They gave me a card with the report number/contact info and I may be contacted by a detective and someone in the D.a.'S office depending on what they charge the perv with. Lovely. Walmart, the store where you can be groped by a guy who wanders the aisles with his junk out and has to be tasered to leave you alone, just hope yours has some law enforcement hanging out in the parking lot and maybe get a taser. Apparently the one I have is the highest voltage allowed for civilians to possess/utilize and carry in public - that's only because my brother wouldn't let me give him the money to buy one that's only sold to persons employed in law enforcement (he's a corrections guard) - we aren't even living in the same state, they don't have serial numbers like guns, but noooooooo. Deputies didn't even know about the pepper spray that was at the bottom of my purse. They probably would have confiscated that because it's a high concentration gel that is no longer sold to the civilian public.
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wow! i'm glad ur okay, i've been watching way too much Law & Order SVU lately, so this sounds straight up like an episode!
...maybe i should get a taser??
walmart is notorious for having unsafe parking lots, sadly for the women who get harassed
And the store staff didn't call the police when they saw this guy exposing himself and following a woman? :O
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I've been seeing a guy who is raising two daughters after his wife/their mom passed due to breast cancer. He asked me fairly recently if I would take his older daughter to shop for bras, since she had said that she'd be more comfortable doing that with me. Even though she's not all that developed, I 'get' why she ... wants a bra, because it's the same reason I wanted one around the same age - to fit in. Of course, the selection that she has available to her at Target is way beyond the white, black, S-M-L choices I recall, and whatever the material used in them always made me itchy. I was happy to have been able to make the whole process a positive experience for his daughter, who now has options in basic colors as well as a hot pink lace-trimmed and padded bra. The younger one thinks bras are silly and plans on never wearing them. I was worried that I might be asked questions to which there aren't any easy answers (My mom had breast cancer, will I get it? etc etc) but the most challenging inquiry was "do I have this on the right way?" (the answer: umm...almost....). I got her a lingerie wash bag for everything *but* the hot pink one, at least not for the first couple of washes so that there's less worry about any dye transferring, and instructions to hang dry (even though it's more likely that all of the bras will go into the dryer because that's easier and faster...).
The entire experience brought back memories of my first trip that my mom and I took shopping for bras. I was a little embarrassed but I managed to bring the subject up with my mom, who responded to the whole thing only marginally better than how she reacted to the permission slip from school to allow me to go with the other girls in my class to learn about all the ways our bodies were about to change and freak us out with. Evidently she'd assumed that sort of thing wouldn't come up for another couple of years. I have to say, I'd have never been able to bring the subject of wanting/needing a bra up with my dad, regardless of who would be taking me to the store.
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It's awesome to hear that her first experience with bras was such a good one! We should all be so lucky to have someone like you early in our bra-wearing lives.
I wish someone like you had taken me bra shopping when I was young. It was a big shameful awful ordeal.
(don't tween bras come so cute now? way better than the pink or white superthick nonsense)
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I am not sure if bratabase has suggestions for this purpose, but if anywhere does it's here. (actually this is going to be a 2 part question)
I teach a sport that involves a lot of jumping and moving and being upside down and such, mostly to elementary through high school aged girls. Some of these girls have the stereotypical body ... type associated with such endeavors (at least for now). Some are well served by the S M L XL generic sports bras.
And then there are the few who clearly should be wearing 'full bust' bras. So I know their chests are hurting after practice. MINE did & I took my sweet time developing.
So
a) is there magic wording for bringing this up with Jr high/high school girls that isn't going to make them feel bad about their bodies? In certain sports boobs are, like, the worst thing evar. They're all very in shape, it's just the shape they are in happens to be curvier than expected! Also for bringing it up with their parents without it being super creepy? I'm not good at magic words & I know that if someone had said anything that sounded at all like "Kallisti's boobs are too big" I would have died on the spot.
b) Actual recommendations for sports bras? This gets tricky because, like, panache & enell? WAY TOO HIGH IN THE NECK to go under our competition uniforms. I have an Anita Active one that works for the activity & probably fits under the uniform (or at least doesn't come up so high) but there might be better options or options that other people like (bc bodies are different). Pros & cons as well would be super appreciated. Most/all of the athletes I am thinking of would be small band/'large' cup.
Thank you so much, knowledge-havers.
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Wait, is this the question that was just asked a few days ago? Maybe it was on reddit! LOL
the first part I vaguely asked on someone elses thread but didnt wanna take it over so I went into more detail & made a new thread asking exactly what I wanna compile.
I'm not even on reddit, that place scares me.
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Anyone experience chest pains due to large breast? I've always experienced a slight chest pain but it's only getting worse. Trips to the doctor has shown that nothing is wrong but something has to be going on right? My mom thinks it's my chest size (even though she's even larger chested than I am and experiences no weird pains).
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Where is the pain located? Do you mean within the chest wall (inside rib cage), or in the breast tissue?
That's really abnormal. Have they done all tests (both ones that can be caused by cancer or by a heart condition)?
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It pains me to see "before" and "after" photos of breast implant patients with the description saying "...now a full C cup" or "from 36B to 36D," and to see the bra lines that clearly show that their "new" bras are WAY to big in the band... maybe if these women found out their true size before hand they might not have gotten the surgery.... just bums me out...
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At least implants are usually lighter than natural breast tissue! They're also more self-supporting (at first). Between an augmented woman with 30GG breasts and one who is that way without enhancement, the first can probably get away with crappier bras. Until gravity starts to do its thing, that is.
What drives ME up the wall is the completely, utterly, appallingly off base bra sizes that plastic surgeons use to refer to a given breast volume. YOU HAVE AN MD FIGURE IT OUT!!!
The same thing pains me more with reduction stories. Like, maybe if they'd had a bra that was actually supportive, they wouldn't have been so unhappy with their natural body.
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Just re-did my measurements, and of course there's not a calculator anywhere that gets it right thanks to my barrel chest. 30H/HH or 28HH/J? lol. 30GG is slightly too big.
So, I am apparently now...wait for it...
a 29 G 1/2. If only such a size existed.
Oddly enough, being a between sizer seems to mean ... I'm roughly the same size in UK and Polish brands (that run in UK-esque sizing). (30G-GG/28GG-H UK, 65GG ish Ewa Michalak and Kris Line). So on the one hand, it makes things easier. My starting size is the same across the board.
On the other hand, it makes them infinitely more complicated. Kind of glad I didn't sell ALL of my 30GGs. I still have a Freya and a Fantasie. They're a wee bit big. Ok. the bands on both are absolutely too big, but can wear them on the tighter hooks or alter them down, and cups - well, the Fantasie is at least an inch too wide, maybe more, and the Freya is a little too big across the board, but both are wearable, and my 30G/28GGs are just a wee bit small. Just enough to be kind of uncomfortable before the work day is over.
Apparently, I don't get to have a bra that just fits at the moment. My options are slightly too big, or slightly too small.
The bra insanity continues...body o' mine, seriously, wasn't fingers and feet at quarter sizes bad enough? Wasn't my XXS ass bad enough? Now my boobs are between sizes, too? Not cool, and not funny. Body, enough with the practical jokes!
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We may have similar bodies... I have a tiny butt (panties always fall off or bunch in the back, and I wore a kid's large back when I weighed a bit less) and calculators always guess me a few cup sizes too large, probably due to my ribcage being pretty large at the top and then tapering to my waist. I'm currently around a 30H/HH, but most calculators think I should be in a 30J/JJ. Sigh.
Anyway, when I'm between sizes, I usually go for the slightly larger one and use cookies OR buy the smaller one and pray (fruitlessly) that my boobs shrink.
I have the kind of butt that makes going to the movies hard. 2 hours of sitting? Ow! :). I buy my pants in the juniors section.
So, sounds like! I have a very prominent upper torso. Projected sternum, tapered, barrel shaped, gigantic shoulders for my frame, tiny wrists and legs, no hips or butt at all. Can't shake the upper tummy flab and love handles, but not much going on below the belt.
The bigger size isn't so big I would need an insert, but it's just big enough to lose some support. And of course the wider wires are tough to cope with, but I'll just have to deal.
I was just so happy to ha e cracked the G barrier, being back in a GG is disappointing! My Gs are still very wearable, just not ideal for a long day.
Right now I'm praying that the Kris Line and Ewa bras I ordered fit when they finally arrive! (not as much as I'm praying whatever is wrong with my a/c is covered under the service contract though...maybe I'll melt back down to a G by Thursday when the tech gets here...)
What's crazy is my weight hasn't changed at all, just my boobs. How do my measurements change and my weight not change? Does not compute.
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So since I've started wearing more correct sizes, my (class 2) inverted nipples having become less inverted (that is to say they protrude more easily). Reading the wikipedia article on inverted nipples made me wonder what factors are contributing to my own and how wearing a correctly fitted bra may have helped that. Has anyone else experienced this?
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I have "class 1" nipples, which are usually referred to as "flat nipples" or "shy nipples" rather than fully inverted. This was a HUGE problem for me regarding breastfeeding, so I saw a lot of lactation consultants and doctors who had a lot of things to say about it.
Basically, inside your nipple there are fibrous bands of tissue that are pulling the nipple inside. The only way to make the nipples really not inverted is to stretch/break/tear these bits of tissue. This does happen when you have inverted nipples and you breastfeed and it's not comfortable. Given that the inversion is due to bits of tissue literally pulling your nipples back inwards, I can't see how a bra would make that much difference.
Do you know if hormones can influence it then (sorry, you're way more knowledgeabe on this subject than I am so I'm a bit curious)? I went on progestin only birth control around the same time I started wearing correctly sized bras. I suppose it could be random, but yeah.
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This past weekend, my brother's house got broken into. Don't worry! He's alright and no one was home when it happened. Actually, nothing was even in the home besides a few chairs when it happened. My brother had just gotten the keys that week and hadn't moved in yet! So I guess the joke's on you burglars ... alt=":D" />
One thing I cannot laugh about though, is the bra battle scar I ended up with as an indirect result of the break in I decided to come along and keep my brother company while he waited for the door repair guy to repair the front door which had been kicked in. After admiring the repair guy's cute handyman ass for a couple hours, I got sleepy and decided to take a nap on some dining room chairs.
I napped with my bra on. I never nap with my bra on. This caused me to wake up feeling bruised under my left boob. I thought nothing of it and came home to take pics and add bras to Bratabase (my favourite thing to do on a Saturday afternoon ). To my horror, I noticed a 3 inch horizontal bruise/cut line a couple inches below my IFM. WTFFF?!?! Did someone slash me and stitch me up in my sleep? Then it occurred to me that my bra obviously shifted down and pinched my skin while I slept since it's too big in the band to begin with.
I so deserved that for falling asleep daydreaming about cute butts instead of minding my own comfort >__< Lessons were learned and I'm happy to share this story here as I'm sure tales of bra battle scars are a commonality amongst the lovely ladies (and mens?) of Bratabase.
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Holy ouch, Batman!
Another tip: Never fall asleep in your Deco Strapless (if you have one that is). I made that mistake once, and while it fits me, it did rub raw where the rubber/plastic met my skin. I was sore for a week. To note: I was definitely asleep on a floor, so maybe you wouldn't have the same issues on a couch. Either way, I don't recommend sleeping in a Deco Strapless. Yowch!
Serves you right for objectifying a man. :-D
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My latest fitting adventures are pushing me towards a 32J/JJ, at least to try. This is quite surprising to me as someone who had been wearing a 38DDD.
I've heard comments to the effect that, "A woman who wears a 32 band can't be fat." I assure you, if I can wear a 32 band, that is ... not true. At this time, I'm about a hundred pounds heavier than the American societal ideal for my height. Most of it doesn't sit around this part of my torso, but I definitely have some squishiness; elsewhere, there is padding aplenty.
Despite my desire to practice body positivity, I can't deny that switching to a smaller band makes me feel a tiny bit happy (ah, lifelong cultural indoctrination!). But it's utterly meaningless.
And it's not just meaningless in the sense that smaller/larger/whatever bodies don't make us any better humans, but it also doesn't really say anything about whether we *are* fat/thin. There are just so many more factors involved: bone structure, torso shape, musculature, personal preference for tightness, etc. I've heard from several women that their band sizes don't really change when they lose and gain weight, even quite significant amounts. I suspect this is true for me, too.
The whole concept of vanity sizing is based on a totally false, overly simplistic premise: namely, that a woman's shape can be reduced to two numerical measurements. Anyone even slightly involved in the bra fitting community should know that we are more complex than this.
So yes, a 32 band can be fat, and a 40 band can likely be muscular with little body fat, and none of this determines your attractiveness or worth as a person.
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When I first got into my real size I had a bit of this 'vanity' shock. "I can't be under a 40, no way, I CAN'T be a 36. At the time I was a 36K wearing a 48DDD. But you're trained to believe 'this is big, and this is small' - and that's crazy, because as a whole we don't even know how bras work. Every single busty celebrity is a "34D". I'm a 30G now, and I can assure you, I still have plenty of puff - just not on my rib cage. I've got that 'looks skinny, and then puts on a swimsuit and feels like a beached whale' sort of body. lol.
It's all media brainwashing. And then it's hard to even say 'this is vanity sized', because depending on the cut of a pair of pants or a blouse I can be any of three or 4 different sizes. In pants I've got 2s that are bigger than 5s and 6s. Now THAT'S vanity sized. When you can fit a size Small dress around a 40 inch bust, THAT'S vanity sized, but when you wiggle between two sizes or three? That's just designers fucking with your head, and bras are no different.
I think that the fact that some bra bands are stretchier than others only adds to the fusterclucking that one can experience as they try and navigate size variances.
I have a friend who was a men's magazine model and was also getting some work in the regular acting industry (she was even one of the stripper chicks in "Showgirls"! :P) and her comp card listed her bra size as 32D even though at the time she'd just had a 2nd breast augmentation and was most definitely a lot bigger than a D. I asked her about this, and evidently her manager wanted her to put down C not D but realized that wouldn't fly with anyone who saw her for auditions, and said that giving her true size would limit her in terms of auditions and work offered. For this reason, the idea that the media has influenced women to perceive size (what is small, what is large, what size a-b-c (not literally a b or c) looks like); is something I believe to be happening. The only way to determine what is behind the fact that in one brand you wear a certain size but in another brand your size is something different - yet your boobs haven't changed over the last couple of minutes...is to get out a tape measurer and compare the numbers. After that it's about accepting that the mystery of how brands come up with the size that they put on the tag will only be revealed if you go and work in the R&D division at said brand. Or perhaps with their design team.
There has been a fair amount of media attention paid to the subject of vanity sizing in women's clothing, but it seems to be limited to pointing out that it exists rather than anyone needing to do something about it. I'm not sure anyone really can force designers to knock it off.
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So I know the answer to this question! Well, at least pectus excavatum (read as: "sternum, why are you vanishing into my body???") that looks exactly like mine.
I have exactly 0 desire to blog about bras, as I blog about other things already & my boobs being online attached to my name may not be the best choice bc people ... are weird about boobs & that's drama I don't need. HOWEVER, if people who do such things would like to discuss the issue & have pictures (edit:" I mean my pictures. because I doubt most bra bloggers have a sternum like mine) I can do that. Seems there's a smattering of discussion here & there but it's not widely explored & if I can help fix that I would like to.
(for the curious...it tacks straight to the not shy part of my sternum & is parallel to the hole where my sternum would be if it didn't run away. tacking to there = going into my chest & no breathing.)
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It looks the same on me. :)
A while ago I drafted a fitting guide for PE. I'd be really happy to get your feedback on it, if you have the time. It's on my profile page.
Information on pectus excavatum is pretty limited, I'm sure more resources would be very useful for others who have it. I don't have it and am not hugely knowledgeable about it myself, but if you'd be willing to share pictures and any information/advice you have personally, I'd be happy to write a blog post from it? Or if you (or anyone else) wanted to write a guest post yourself that'd be great too. Let me know either way, no worries if not :)
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I see my mom about twice a year, when she makes a trip out to California from Omaha, NE (in February she comes out to celebrate her birthday with her twin sister, and then she comes sometime towards the end of July to celebrate my birthday which is in August a little early - originally that was because I was ... in school still and the fall semester always started pretty much the same week of my bday and I'd be totally focused on classes and getting to them on time rather than spending time with dear mom.) Two years ago I had to sit my mom down for a conversation about why it was hurtful for me when she makes comments about my weight and how she and my aunt will sit and talk about my boobs like I'm not there - like I'm just a female body shaped piece of furniture with (to them) gigantic boobs. Yeah, they quit poking at them, after I did it back to their....uhhh...boob-area-that-mostly-feels-like-the-contour-tshirt-bras-they-wear so they'd know how it felt. As a side note, I think I want to convince my mom to get fitted again, but she doesn't really like spending any of the money she and my dad worked so hard to save for their retirement....which they've reached...on herself. I keep telling her that now is the time, it's what the money was invested and saved for (spending! in retirement!). (sigh) So ever since I had that conversation, she's tried to be better about the subject of size, specifically mine. I haven't said anything to her about the weight I've lost, it's probably not the amount that she thinks I'd "feel better" if I lost, but the amount part, that's more about her own issues with weight and her mother that she dealt with throughout her adult years. Even when I was 100lbs my stomach wasn't flat, not when I was putting in 5+ hours 5-6 days a week in ballet, in a pre-professional program at the local arts high school for classical dance, whose directors would eventually inform me that my body type would prevent me from getting into a company and dancing professionally. Evidently I was too short, too busty,had a butt, some hips - my body had far too much feminine curve. All the things women have, in varying amounts, but to those directors - I had far too much, at least for a proper ballerina. If the present day me could go back and say something to those directors, it'd probably be "thanks for the soul-crushing, but fuck off." or along those lines.
I still begin with the fretting about whether or not the time with my mom will be pleasant or comparable to having to use a dull steak knife to free myself via amputation from the overturned wreckage of my car that no one can see from the highway because it's down an embankment and in a vegetation overgrown ditch. This nonsense in my head starts a month ahead of time, and not because I enjoy giving myself ample time to obsess...one would think that since I only see her twice a year, I'd focus on making it a happy time, and I would, if I could. Why must adulthood come with so much baggage, it's like starting with a carry on bag and ending up with a full touring luggage set.
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valentine556, I admire you for even trying, over and over again.
(((hugs))) I am truly astonished again and again at the way women will tear down their relationship with their daughters for years like this. Then they wonder why they don't have a closer relationship.
I think your mom needs a wake-up call. It sounds like the two of you do love each other but she has no concept of boundaries (and, to be honest, you might need to make sure you've got your boundaries clear also-- at the end of the day if she doesn't care to do anything about her bra situation, that is as much her prerogative as your choices about your body/clothes are your prerogative). So maybe tell her honestly that her criticism of your body still hurts to the point that you are ambivalent about her visit. That should give her something to think about. If she is like my mom she will pout, act defensive and be a martyr for a while, but eventually it will sink in.
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so this maybe a weird random question, but i get asked this alot from friends: "Is there a chart for body proportions?" Meaning, not SISTER SIZING, but lets say you are a 32D and what is the next size that someone could be that is that same proportion... so lets say 36 band, what cup would that have to be to be the right ratio to a 32D cup...
Does that make sense lol?
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It should be that all D cups are proportionate... like 32D just a smaller version of a 36D, or a 40D. A 32G and a 36G should be proportionate, and a 28H and a 32H should be proportionate.
im not sure if i understand correctly, but i feel like thats still sister sizing, but just really far off. like, a 32D would sister size to a 36B, so those should have the same volume? i mean a 32D and a 36D should be way different looking, since one person would have a 32 UB/36 Bust and one would have a 36UB/40OB.
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Congrats on your weight loss! :)