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Thinking outside the bra fitting box
Some people in the world are used to questioning themselves. To think everyone else must be right and they themselves are wrong. I'm one of those people.
I'm autistic so my train of thoughts isn't exactly the usual train of thoughts. I often think so far outside the box that a lot of people doesn't even grasp what I'm after.
Something has happened to me when soon gaining 40 and I don't know what it is, but I have suddenly realised there are a lot of times when I'm right and others are wrong. Or when I just think differently than others and no one is right or wrong.
This has now come down to my bra fitting.
It's not me, it's the bras.
The two last months I've tried to see if there's any way what so ever that I was just wrong about my rants about having a super wide root and a lot of migration going on. I've tried fitting myself higher on chest because then I would get my boobs into one accepted piece. And that must be right because everyone else thinks so.
When the Braologie bra started going south after a couple of days and I had minor quadboob I did the usual test; pushing the boobs upwards with my hands. Lifting them gently so they were supported. Picture 31 proves my point. There's no flattening going on here, I'm lifting and pushing so that my boobs becomes supported.
Next thing I did was looking at my back. Those rolls under the band... they end up on my boobs so easily. It's just the bra wanders lower then and then I spill out on top of it instead. Picture 32 and 33 shows that.
And then it dawned upon me; could I actually be both low on chest and high on chest?
Could it actually be that the fault on bra fitting for me is trying to fit myself into boxes I will never ever fit into? Could it actually be that I'm not delusional about the fact that my boobs really are shallow, that I'm not flattening them when I push them against my chest. That I'm not delusional about my wide root. That I'm not delusional about the fact that my boobs looks deeper than they are just because I'm semi soft.
And that all bras forces me to choose to fit either top tissue or bottom tissue in a bra. And that it's not my fault. And that it's not me being picky. That it's simply me wanting a bra to act as a bra, and not as a goddamn cover sheet!
Because seeing it from that perspective it really starts to make more sense.
The Braologie bra fitting method with concentrating tissue front center and up is by far the best for me. But the bra in itself is the wrong shape. At least if I would follow their theory about everything being boobs.
If I wouldn't question myself so damn much I wouldn't really be in a situation where I try to get people to understand all this. I would instead try to get myself a bra that actually does work the way a bra should work. (But the problem is that I first have to explain my fit issues and then I'm again back where I've started.=
Good luck doing that if you're insecure and everyone more knowledgeable than you would say otherwise.
Update: Seriously: Look at my Profile pic. What you see is me scoped into a 36G Freya Piper. My boobs have never ever looked like this! Deep round and projected
Obviously the Braologie bra has already made my top tissue end on top of my boobs even in other bras! After wearing the bra for only a week?!
I am now seriously center heavy with no separation what so ever between my boobs, and my boobs pushes the gores outward so that I can breath.
All my tissue is in the cupsTop tissue, bottom tissue, back fat, armpit fat. Boob shape perfect, figure perfect. How on earth did this happen?!
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I'm looking at your pictures for a while now trying to figure out what to make of it. I wanted to ask you have you grown more boob lately but your explanation makes perfect sense.
You know enough on bra fitting to make your own calls - and only you can know how something makes you feel, both physically and psychologically, which is the most important part of fitting yourself anyway. And yes, even if that sometimes defies usual fitting rules. Let me get all metaphysical on you - The only constant in this world is change. And this aplies to boobs too, their shape changes all the time, even during one day.
I think the best decision you can make is stop questioning yourself, just go with your instincts :)
<3 You'regency right <3
I think I partly got hit on the head from seeing old pics of alisa in smaller bras and realising how similar she did look to me.
The absurd thing with all this is that I've tried for half a year to grow boobs and it hasn't worked. I've paid so much money on bras and then the bra I got completely free from you just makes miracles. I'm still trying to grasp what all this means apart from the fact that I suppose this isn't the end of this. I still haven't dared to measure the Piper. I don't want to know more just yet.
The most tricky part is the bottom breast fat that is totally unseparated. I would need a gore with no more separation on bottom than on top.
And what you say about change is surely true. My whole body is changing now.
All of this might also have become easier because of my weight loss from illness. Maybe my fat got easier to move or something.
I must say the downside to it is that I will probably have softer boobs. I definitely have more jiggle in those boobs. However it's quite natural to jiggle more when the boobs are further out from the body? I mean you jiggle too even if firm?
I might be able to get a flat gore from bending the Piper wires actually since they are not distorted. They start out in my armpit but further to the front than the Panache bras did.
But one of my first instincts when seeing myself in the Piper was a curiosity to try Jasmine and Ewa. However I really do think longlines is the shit for me. I'm thinking about stocking up both on all Freya longlines and the Cleo longlines.
But with this growth I have no clue how long they will even last.
I really have no clue what so ever about what has happened still.
Now question for you and alisa; do you think you would have migrated have you been wearing too wide wires? Say had you been wearing Curve Kate.
Oh and since I think like some Cinderella for becoming an hourglass with big boobs at the age of 40 I don't dare to get up and put on the Piper. What if I was just trolled :O
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