Issue resolved

I'm just going to resell the bra and keep trying more

Original problem

I asked on reddit ABraThatFits 2 months ago if this fit was good enough because it was comfortable wearing for 6 hours, I didn't get much response but after I decided to keep it I decided to tighten the straps as someone suggested and it immediately became horrible. I really just need as much advice as possible. Here is what I posted on reddit

"I'll try to be concise with my history but I would really like help and I feel I've tried a lot. I'll attach pictures of what I'm about to settle for because I'm at a point where I don't think anything will fit great or perfect.

Spring 2019 is when I started my journey here, I knew my previous bras didn't fit and I knew the one I settled for didn't fit great but I needed something for a long vacation. That was an Elomi Carmen 38GG, I wore that one for a while until Spring 2020 when I needed a sports bra so I got Elomi energise in 38GG, I liked it better so it become my go too until I got the Elomi Jodi 38H (uk) (measured in Spring 2021 but I think I started wearing it before that). Again none of these have fit great but good enough with each being better than the last. Thankfully I started measuring most of them in Bratabase so I can list almost bra I've tried and what fit problems I gathered.

--Also note that I did not wear any of these everyday (except on vacation) most use was probably 1-2 times a week and probably not longer than 6 hours---

Spring 2019- calculator recommended 38JJ All UK sizes

38J Panache Tango- way too big

38JJ Panache Jasmine- also way too big

36F Panache Jasmine (they sent the wrong size so way too small)

38J Glamorise Women's full figure plus size camisole wirefree back close sports bra- no data but probably fit worse since I didn't keep it

**38GG Elomi Carmen (in a caramel color)- definitely too small in cups, felt better than the 38H even though it was smaller

38H Elomi Carmen (in black)- felt much smaller and more restrictive than the 38GG

----so I'm pretty sure the color of the fabric effected the fit at least at the time of trying on, not sure if it would change if I wore it longer

Spring 2020

38GG Elomi Energise- small but I liked the fit better than the carmen

Spring 2021

38H Elomi Jodi- again better but not perfect

-I think I probably tried more but I don't have info on bratabase

Spring 2022

38H Curvy Kate Lifestyle Plunge- underwire digs into sternum because they are too low, wire is too short on sides, can't fill bottom of cup, straps too far apart

38H Curvy Kate Top Spot Balconette- gore doesn't lie flat, underwire digs into sternum because they are too low, can't fill bottom of cup, cuts into breast at top, straps too far apart

38H Curvy Kate Eye Spy Balcony- underwire digs into sternum because they are too low, can't fill bottom of cup, can't fill top of cup, straps too far apart

40H Curvy Kate Flutterby Plunge- can't fill bottom of cup, cuts into breast at top, band rides up (on loosest hook), straps too far apart

38K/L Flirtelle Eloise bralette- cuts into tissue at top, I felt it fit as well as some bralettes/sports bras I could buy at Costco for 1/4 the price

38H Flirtelle Palm Balcony Bay Bikini- gore doesn't lie flat, underwire pokes armpits, empty fabric on sides of cups, can't fill bottom of cup, cuts into breast at top

38H Flirtelle Hayley Plunge- wire is too short on sides, cuts into breast at top, I did not like that this bra was essentially only mesh and not something a little more durable and that it was so see-through

38H Flirtelle Orla Plunge- underwire digs into sternum because they are too low, can't fill bottom of cup, straps too far apart

38H Flirtelle Thalia Balcony- gore doesn't lie flat, underwire digs into sternum because they are too low, underwire pokes armpits, edge of cup cuts into breast tissue under armpit, can't fill bottom of cup, cuts into breast at top,

Summer 2022 (this week)

38HH Freya Fancies Balcony- gore doesn't lie flat, can't fill bottom of cup, can't fill top of cup, straps too far apart

38HH Freya Starlight Side Support- gore doesn't lie flat, wire is too short on sides, can't fill bottom of cup, can't fill top of cup, straps too far apart

38HH Elomi Charley Plunge- underwire digs into sternum because they are too high, can't fill bottom of cup, straps too far apart

38HH Elomi Energise Sports Bra- this one I really couldn't figure out if it was too big or too small or if it was just how the bra is because of the extra fabric at the top that covers all of my chest- it was loose but then I tightened the straps and it was better but gore/fabric above gore wasn't lying flat, gore doesn't lie flat, can't fill bottom of cup, can't fill top of cup, straps too far apart

38HH Elomi Lydia- gore doesn't lie flat, seems to separate for boobs like the gore won't lie flat because its too tall where the boobs want to be basically touching,can't fill bottom of cup (although its pretty close to filling it, small amount of wrinkles at the top-like it feels loose but doesn't look loose in certain positions, not the worst in terms of discomfort but the straps are really digging into my arms above the cup and I'm not a huge fan of how high the cups goes on me, it "feels" tighter than the other bras which I don't hate but it definitely feels like my movement is restricted. The longer I wear it the more comfortable it feels but the less it looks to fit- like the cups are getting wrinklier at the top and the bottom space feels like its getting bigger. Even though the fit is okay I hate how high the cups go and looking at the pictures it seems like it doesn't hold my breasts up like the Kim or how much I'd want a bra too.

********38HH Elomi Kim- can't fill bottom of cup, straps too far apart. I have worn this bra for probably 6+ hours now and am I thinking about keeping it even though the bottom of the cup doesn't fit right. A few hours in it did cause some pain on the bottom sides of the wires but not much and it didn't last long. This is my main reason for posting should it stay or should it go? It feels much better than anything I currently own so unless someone knows something better or warns me that after more use it will hurt more I'll probably keep it

Some of these I could tell something was wrong but not exactly what was causing it or what "counted" like if the metal wire part of the gore was "flat" but fabric above the wire wasn't flat I wouldn't say there was a problem with the gore lying flat in that situation but maybe I should have.

Also most of these I probably wore for a max of 5 minutes. I know only a few seems to have problem with cup separation, I think that's because I usually go for the plunge, as anything that has a higher gore is too separate and I think the gore won't lie flat because the breast tissue is practically touching. Some with a shorter gore, the gore would lie flat but right above the gore the boobs would kind of want to escape the to touch in the middle.

So I think my main issues are

cups won't fill at the bottom- my inframammary fold seems to be pretty darn flat across not a curved shape like most bra wires. I know projection can have an effect but it seems when I go bigger in the cup it just wrinkles at the top and the bottom not that the breast is pushed into filling the cups "correctly".

The straps are too far apart- I'm willing to deal unless someone knows of a unicorn bra, I think its because I'm fat and the bras are designed for a bigger build on a person and I have a small but fat build.

I think basically all if not every single bra has some extra room in a little triangle area near the straps, doesn't bother me but the info may be helpful

I know that many people would prefer a bigger band size when their band measurement is essentially the same as the band- 38" for a 38 band but I actually enjoy the tightness.

I think both of my breasts are the same size, one is just attached higher on my body than the other so its possible one will always not be able to fill the bottom of the cup due to that. In the pictures they look different sizes but I think its because of my arms they look literally the same when my arms are by my side.

Sorry about the length but feel free to give me any and all advice-even if you aren't sure! I don't have pictures of most of them because that would take forever just what I might keep. Ask any questions and I 'll do my best to answer them!

I covered up a potentially identifying mark in any pictures it was visible.

Link has ABTF and Bratabase measurements

https://imgur.com/a/bjEvjuJ

Edit: new link with photos of me in smaller bras

https://imgur.com/a/lDDWKs3 "

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