Bra fitting help » Painful Bra
I never thought this fit right bc of the pain wearing it the first time. I pushed it to the back of the drawer and have just been wearing sports bras, but they cause back pain for me. This bra is a 38DDD, but according to everything I’ve read today -I belong in around a 36F. I was professionally measured when I purchased it; although, they didn’t have the size in stock and mailed 3 bras to me. I have the others if this will help figure out my next steps. This bra’s gore doesn’t tack, it shifts around, the underwire digs in about two inches from my under bust when I sit down, the cups are too high on me and maybe too wide. It seems huge, but my boobs spill over. I’ve become overwhelmed with all the ways to describe my boobs and I’m just looking for any guidance. I look frumpy, I’m in pain and really down about it. Thanks for any help!!
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The cup is way too shallow and too small for you, and yes you could probably wear a 36 much more comfortably in most brands. If didn't have your size in stock and were going to have to order anyhow, I don't know why the Soma sales staff didn't just suggest one of the Wacoal bras the chain offers alongside its own products--those are available in bigger cup sizes, have more average-human-friendly construction and are just generally much better bras. I suspect they just had no idea what they were doing.
Also, if someone willingly sells you an underwire bra whose gore doesn't even tack they are either not a professional in any sense of the word, or they are just plain dishonest.
Weasel words/red flag comments from a salesperson: "The gore isn't supposed to tack with this particular bra" (ummm yes it is, that's the entire concept of underwires)
"Don't worry, that's normal, the gore in this bra doesn't tack on anyone" (oh good, they just admitted they routinely fit folks into sizes/designs unsuitable for their anatomy)
"Well, when you are this size you can't expect the gore to tack; your bust is just too large/heavy" (see above).
Try a Nordstrom--they do know how to measure/fit people, and their size range is broad enough that they won't be tempted to try to convince you that something fits just because they don't have anything better.
Updated on June 20, 2022 Flag this
There are fit and shape issues with this bra. Uk brands are the best. Freya, elomi, parfait by affinatas, fantasie in 36f or ff uk sizes. It depends on the style and brand. Good luck. I hope this helps.
Updated on June 18, 2022 Flag this
I know your post was a while back, but sharing in case this helps you.
Post pregnancy my boobs totally changed and went from firm to soft tissue (sort of empty & easy to move around). I found that material on the bra really matters because I would get quadboob and spill out of cups even when they were too large for me. Personally I do best with unlined stretchy materials.
Start with Panache and Freya which have narrower wires and see if those work. I don’t know the materials of those bras well, but avoided molded or firm cups and look for multiple seams on the bra which normally means more projected.
If those wires are still too big for you then a Polish brand would be your next stop. I personally love Ewa’s bras marked BM- they are unlined either all stretchy lace or with a lace accent which works beautifully to keep my boobs inside the bra cup! The stretch is also great for any asymmetry if you have that issue.
I will say the Ewa’s run wide, but I got used to it after a month or so and it’s been the best bra yet for me
Updated on October 6, 2022 Flag this